Becoming aware of our triggers

This article was originally published in the newspaper “La Estrella” and is part of a biweekly column from the ICF Panama Chapter to disseminate what Professional Coaching is. It seeks to inform, create more awareness and differentiate professional coaching, in which the Coach is governed by ethical principles and is continually improving his or her skills.

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Today’s world is increasingly uncertain, complex and hyperconnected and the stimuli we receive daily are also growing in volume and complexity.

Our daily life is full of stimuli that we receive from the people with whom we interact in person or virtually, from the events around us that attract or require our attention in a more passive or active way, from the quantity and diversity of information, from distracting elements that exist on social networks, on television and on the internet.

The impulses received generate behaviours, which are not always the ones that best suit us, since they do not serve either the results we seek or our well-being.

What then are the triggers?

Triggers are thus any stimulus that can affect our behaviour, regardless of the origin or form of the stimulus.

Triggers can be direct or indirect, external or internal, conscious or unconscious, anticipated or unexpected, encouraging or discouraging, productive or counterproductive.

Between impulse and behaviour we seek to develop self-awareness about how these stimuli impact us to make a more conscious choice of our behaviours, according to what best serves us in terms of our objectives and/or well-being.

As Victor E. Frankl tells us “when we are unable to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

In a coaching process, whether executive, professional or personal, the coach who works with these tools can support his client or coachee in the awareness process, to explicitly identify their main triggers and how these are impacting their behaviours.

Tasha Eurich in her research tells us that 95% of people consider themselves self-aware, but that the real number is 12% to 15%.

The coach helps raise awareness, facilitating the client’s understanding and learning through the use of different methodologies from their toolbox.

Marshall Goldsmith is one of the authors who works on the topic of triggers in his methodology for changing leaders’ behaviours and changing stakeholders’ perceptions of leaders’ behaviours. From its methodology, I highlight the classification of triggers into four quadrants, in which the axes are: “I want them and I don’t want them” and “I need them and I don’t need them.” The triggers that I want and need empower me, the ones I want and don’t need distract me, the ones I don’t want and need I have to look for, and the ones I don’t want or need I have to isolate.

Knowledge or self-awareness of our triggers is not enough to stop responding to them. We need support to make changes in our behaviours, even if I think they only affect me. Most of us need to have a structure, establish rules, implement a routine in a continuous process of change and adaptation of the behaviours that serve us most at all times. For example, to improve our physical fitness, it is not enough to know the stimuli that lead me in a different direction and to be aware of the need to do exercises. Strategies must be developed to establish a new routine, associate it with another activity, create a dedicated space in the weekly agenda, provide rewards in the process and recruit support from a friend or a coach.

Humility and courage support us in the process of self-awareness and commitment, discipline supports the implementation of actions, in achieving more constant changes in our behaviours.

In his process, the coach encourages his client to implement actions, evaluate the results of the actions, define and implement successful strategies, accompanying the client in his process of progress towards his objectives and his well-being. Coaching is thus a process of learning and growth, which facilitates the Client’s self-awareness and growth in the process of transforming knowledge and learning into actions, promoting the autonomy of the coachee in the process.

Fátima Ribeiro

The author is ACC (ICF Associated Certified Coach), Coach in professional development, leadership and teams processes and member of the Board of Directors of ICF Panama. The article was originally published in the ICF Panama Chapter column in the newspaper “La Estrella”.